You can learn a lot about a person by how they fight. Some people go straight for the kill. Some people seek only to defend themselves while doing no harm to their opponent. Still others seek every advantage regardless of its perceived honor. In other words, some people fight dirty. But in our struggle with God, we see a different character, one not common to fighters of any kind, compassionate love.
While every healthy relationship involves the struggle of wills, it should not define any relationship. Yet often, that is just the way Christians define their relationship with those outside the church. Even fellow believers find themselves in the midst of debates over God, community, worship. As a group, what Christians are against defines them more than what they are for. We forget that our struggle is not with other people (faithful or unfaithful) but with our own faithfulness to God.
Thankfully, God doesn’t seek to destroy us. God’s intention is wrestling with us isn’t even to make us submit. Instead, God has decided not to fight with us at all. Make not mistake, God hasn’t given up on us. Rather, God wants us to know just how much we are loved and how that love can and will transform us, if we let it. Thus, God came in Jesus Christ to once and for all end the struggle. By his death, God declares just how much we are loved. Yet, we still fight. We still act like God is against us. All the while, God is saying stop fighting and learn to love.